insight arising

I have lived with my parents for nine months now. While I didn't know what to expect from the experience, I never thought the wild card would be my dad. My quiet, reserved, calm, and harmless dad. Since the beginning of my journey home to the belly of the beast , I have been struggling quite a bit with him. These frustrations have been surprising and confusing and incredibly unfamiliar given the minimal conflict we've had over the years. Unexpectedly, I've gotten so upset by him...  He spits in the sink without washing the things away.  He's become radically conservative in the past few years.  He's stubborn as heck and will only do things his way.   He's a product of cultural patriarchy and refuses to do anything outside his gender role. He's emotionally unavailable and has dismissed my sadness.  He can be cold, distant, and inconsiderate.   I've been triggered countless times by him. I've snapped. I've been repeatedly impatient with him. I'